I need to remember the below phrase. If you’re planning a wedding, make it your mantra:
“I do know that worrying about what other people do for their weddings (or what they think of one’s own) is a one-way ticket to Crazytown, USA. There will always be someone with a better idea, a larger budget, or whatever-pushes-your-insecurity-button.”
I let myself get upset when others tell me that I’ve made some mistakes already in my planning. Its so hard to remember that my wedding will be made up of things that matter to me, and if I do or don’t invite certain people, do certain things with the reception or choose to do something offbeat at my ceremony, I can’t let other people tell me I’m wrong. I know people are just trying to offer advice, but in the end, it can make me feel all insecure.
Now, I am trying to plan a wedding on a budget — and all advice points to choosing your priorities. These are the things that I feel warrant the most attention for MY big day:
1. a photographer with a style that meshes with our day — even if said photographer costs around $3,000 — this is most important to me!
2. good food that isn’t your conventional wedding fare
3. decor — if I want polka dots or stripes, I’ll do them. If I don’t want to spend a fortune on flowers, I won’t
In the words of my friend Lisa “Its your day. If people don’t like what you’re doing… f-em.”